COMPLITE AND UTTER BULLSHIT BY THE WAY

YOU'RE AS WRONG AS I AM.

Have you ever been in an argument with your sibling about something that happened like a year or months ago. You go all insisting that it actually happened in a particular way but your sibling doesn't agree with you because he/she maintains it never happened like that, and the argument goes on and on until one person decides to give up.

However, maybe some days or weeks later, something else happens that makes you realise your sibling was actually right about his argument and you're suddenly like "oh wow I thought I was right"

Or another situation where you finished preparing for an exam, brushed through your jottings,  revising over and over again before entering the exam hall. Then in the hall you see a very easy but tricky question (which you've already read before the exam) and your brain immediately gives you an answer which was very correct and you tick. Then after the exam you go back to your book, only to realize that you were WRONG and you're like "hoooowwww ??? Fu****k !!!" (yeah right)

So...

What does this have to say about us though and where exactly are we driving at?

This is it; WE ARE ALL WRONG

The brain is tricky!

Our brain is just another organ of the body that can fail over and over again, just like we can have difficulties with our sense of taste after drinking a hot coffee and burning our tongue, or suffer from a numb arm after obtaining an injury that ends up affecting our sense of touch. Facts are, it is the same for the BRAIN! sometimes we delude ourselves into believing we can never be in the wrong, but what organ tell us that?

 The brain!

We forget that the organ that supplies that same information to us can also fail too.

The human brain is a very funny organ

The brain forgets very quickly,

It mistakes and misinterpret things very easily,

It could be a statement you read in a book the previous night, and the next morning when you try remembering it again, your brain might or might not supply that statement as accurate as it was but it would immediately and effeciently substitute for something very close to it. (Yeah that's what it does!)

So let's look at group dynamics, let's try relating this to our daily uactivities, our relationships with the members of our academic, religious and economic cutouts, our peers and even family. We'll find out that we're all mostly guilty of thinking we are always right, we tell ourselves that we're correct, we know better and others are just speaking gibberish. That's why we find ourselves engaging in hour-long arguments which many times end up in fights (smh)

News flash: (pause)

There is a very big problem with certainty!

Anyone who believes he or she is always right is deceiving him/herself, and many times such persons never grow. This is because, the human  brain is naturally designed to be EFFICIENT but not ACCURATE.

The brain discourages doubt

It doesn't want to be challenged

It enjoys its own comfort zone and wants to be right at all times, therefore supplies you answers efficiently (just as it was designed to be, but who said it was accurate though?)

Many times the brain distorts the thought of fresh ideas by itself, because it believes that what it knows already is the correct thing, which, without adequate care may lead to intellectual limitation.

A very good example is this, try looking back at your teenage or adolescent days, I'm very sure you felt some typa way about certain issues, e.g religion, sex, or even relationship. Now relate your thoughts then and your thoughts now, what changed? (Of course you didn't switch bodies) you just grew! So you notice that every day we grow. Little by little we advance; our ideas broaden and shift from perspectives to another, which is not bad (as far as it is towards a positive direction) yeah! I say do not be ashamed to say or admit to something differently than you did the previous year, no you're not a hypocrite, you just grew and realized you were actually wrong and so you feel this new belief of yours is even better (not best). Do not let people of the society deceive you and say things like "you can change mouth for Africa, this wasn't what you said last year, I thought you said blah blah blah..."

You should know exactly when to turn up the finger that does all the magic

Tell them you grew, you developed, things changed, you now feel differently than you did about that topic last year and you might even feel differently about it next year. Yeah! (Or... the finger can just do the talking ~shrugs~)

Do that and I'll be proud of you because it means you thought back and challenged your thoughts and decided they weren't the best afterall and that this could be better. Because that's not an easy thing to do! Yeah and tell yourself that you could still be wrong, maybe just less wrong, because just like that even as adults, our present beliefs and ideas are still not the 'ideal truth' it is just only less wrong.

Perfection can never be attained.

This is the reason why we must all learn the habit of self doubt, (not in the negative light though) we should be able to question our certainties because majority of times, we are all truly wrong, and it only takes growth to realize this. Our grandparents may tell us some things they did when they were young and we'll look at them as though they were very stupid

But no! In their time, they felt they were actually right. That's how our own children in years to come will look back and laugh at many things we hold on to dearly in this present age. (Check!)

We should all be open minded in this life we're in. It is the best way to live, because that saying that NO MAN IS AN ISLAND is very correct. We can't know it all, we all should be open to new ideas, different opinions, new ideologies and what not. When we truly learn this habit, we might start to see things differently and realize we have been making mistakes. For me, there's nothing sweeter than learning something new, in fact many times I pretend not to understand certain things just so my partner can explain it all over again to me, because who knows, he/she might have a new perspective as regards the discussion (and I learn something fresh, one more into the cart!) And I tell you, it has always helped me. I'm not saying we should become gullible and believe everything we are told, no! All I'm saying is that we should discard the thought that WE ARE SURE! Because indeed, nothing for sure is certain.

EVEN THIS POST!

Drops mic!

                 A POEM YOU MAY LIKE

TITLE: No Man Is An Island
BY: John Donne

No man is an island entire of itself, 
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.

If a clod be washed away by the sea, 
Europe is the less, 
As well as if a promontory were, 
As well as any manor of thy friend's, 
Or of thine own were.

Any man's death diminishes me, 
Because I am involved in mankind. 
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; 
It tolls for thee.

No man is an island' is a quotation from the English metaphysical poet John Donne (1572-1631).

PS; if you wanna read more about the dangers of certainty, go read chapter six of Mark Manson's The Subtle art of not giving a fuck (you won't regret it)

Further Reads
Click this link to know WHY ALWAYS BEING RIGHT CAN BE WRONG

And this to know 10 GOOD REASONS NOT TO TRUST YOUR BRAIN

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